So,what are you doing these days ?
Then there is this other kind, who actually put me off with their question because of the way it is asked. The question is laced with a tinge of sarcasm, a feeling of superiority, an incredulous expression of "You can't-be-busy-all-day-bcos-you-are-at-home" and needless advice on why I should be going back to IT industry.
I worked really hard through the school years to acquire that much coveted engineering degree. I worked really hard though college to acquire that much coveted IT job. I worked really hard to get my dream kind of challenges in my career. Nothing was ever a breeze for me. So if I have given up all that for something else, then that "something else" must mean a lot to me. Since I know what I have given up, I try to make it totally worthwhile to do what I am currently doing - which is essentially parenting.
I realise each day how much I am growing as a person, just by being an involved parent. I derive great joy in being able to cook for my children, help them with their studies, mould their character, listen to them when they want an empathetic ear, teach them the values I believe in, pick good books for them, read lots of stories to them, tell them my own stories wherein I sneak in the message that I want to get across and ofcourse sing lullabies ! (Who else is ready to hear my songs ?!!). There is no way I will want to outsource any of these activities to anyone else, unless it is a necessity. It is also an impossible task for me to pack all these activities in 2 or 3 hours stretch, which is what I will have to do if I was working full time outside the house. I know my limitations. So I have made a choice which works well for me. There is no doubt that all these tasks involve lot of effort. This is what lot of people don't seem to get. Being a stay at home mother as compared to a working mother, does not entitle me to a lot of free time. But yes, it is giving me time to be a lot more healthier than what I was a few years back !
I am not judging anyone here. Everyone makes their choices and they have their own reasons to do it. I respect that. This post is mainly a clarification for those second category of people who ask me "So.........what are you doing these days?"...if I am not in a good mood you might just get a "Just doing stuff" reply from me :-)